Healthy is the new skinny. It has to be! It’s one of those things that seems so obvious I shouldn’t even have to write about it. But sometimes writing it down or reading it out loud just strikes home the reality punch we need.
I don’t know about you but Im sick of being hit with totally unrealistic media images telling us what to look like. Telling us that we must conform to a certain body image (skinny) to be cool, beautiful, successful…
You may think you have this sussed, that it doesn’t affect you. But we shouldn’t underestimate the power of the media and the warped views they give us on how we should look.
In fact, how many people out there are starting on a new diet today? Millions I bet. Are you one of them?
Chasing Skinny – The Crazy Truth
Back in the day when I was a teenager in the 80s, it was fashionable to have skinny legs and a tiny, little, peachy bum. What I had was ‘thunder thighs’ and a pretty big pear type bum. 😎
When we did PE (Physical Education) at my school, we wore gym pants instead of shorts. An unfortunate thing for me! We did have a choice but they were what everyone was wearing so of course my 13 year old self chose them.
They were exactly as they sound, just a pair of pants. 2 of my 4 butt cheeks hung out of them. A fact that didn’t escape the guys, who teased me mercilessly.
‘Hey Shona your bums winking at me’,
‘Wee Bogey’, who was a cheeky little git but got away with it, came up behind me on the school running track one day and shouted
‘Hey Shona, your bum looks like an oscillation’??? (Yeah, I had to look that up too😬) On reflection a very polite insult for a Scottish person.
I was mortified!
I’d have done well today with the whole Kardashian led craze for big bums but back then not so much.
I tried and tried to get that ‘fashionable’ look. Suffering the pangs of starvation as I battled with every diet out there. I puffed and panted my way through every fitness craze. It was in the days of Jane Fonda and the invention of lycra (not a great look for old thunder thighs)
I remember my first aerobics class, it was in a seedy old disco in town and it was rammed full of sweaty bodies. Of course I thought they were all skinnier than me…and better at the aerobics. 😔sigh😔.
It was torture.
The whole thing was mission impossible. For a start the ‘dieting’ didn’t work. I was yo-yoing all over the place. I lost weight, put it on, lost weight, put it on. It didn’t matter. The thunder thighs and big butt remained even during the ‘skinny’ times.
The problem was, my goals were unrealistic for me. I was fighting against my genes. The thighs and bum were ‘what my mama gave me’. The only way I could have got rid of this genetic gift would be to starve all the fat off myself. The only way to reach my goal was to make myself ill. Luckily I never went there.
As an aside, I don’t think much has changed for our younger women. In fact I think with the added pressure of cosmetic and aesthetic surgery, social media and photo filtering, it may be worse. I feel so sorry for them.
As we get older and wiser…
Of course we still have the same genes as we get older. But…hopefully by now we have a level of acceptance of ourselves and all our bits, maybe even a bit of pride… My ‘thunder thighs’ are strong and powerful and really help me with my dance, yoga, and just generally give me practical, physical strength. I’m very grateful to have them.
And hey, Im proud of my big bum but now apparently its fashionable, thanks Kim. And it seems that having a bit of meat around the posterior region is and always has been sexy to lots of people!!!! who knew. The point is, if you love yourself and the way you look, who’s going to argue.
Healthy has got to be the New Skinny why?
Genes Matter-You can go on all the diets in the world and be a goddess champion of fitness but you can’t beat your genes. Unrealistic goals of ‘skinnyness’ will never be achieved unless your natural body type allows it. The truth – Learn to love your natural self and make the best of what you’ve got. Choose healthy not skinny!
Media sucks-What a pile of crap. Why should I, we, be slaves to what other people, the media, think of as beauty. They churn out unrealistic images that are genetically impossible for us to reach. The fact that they airbrush to make them even more extreme and unrealistic really pisses me off.
The images they hold up as the epitome of beauty are also subject to fashion trends which makes the whole thing even more farcical. The Truth – We can never live up to their fantasy images. If you happen to be naturally ‘skinny’ then that look is healthy for you. For everyone else, just forget it. Choose healthy not skinny!
Diets dont work anyway – If you are just chasing skinny, i.e. changing what you eat soley to loose weight, it’s destined to fail. Deep down you know diets don’t work. They only work for the lifetime of the diet. As soon as you go back to your normal lifestyle the weight goes back on. We all know this, we’ve been there. The truth of this is undeniable.
Yo yo dieting is very real. We really do put on and loose the same stone or 5 kgs or whatever your personal number is, over and over again. What a pointless waste of time.
To learn more about why diets don’t work read this blog post from Psychologytoday.com
Healthy not Skinny – I’m certainly not suggesting we should all be overweight either. The truth is we should be chasing healthy. We should be striving to be our best selves, not blindly chasing ideals that are held up to us by people who are only there to take our money.
Just one goal but with so many benefits. One of which is
Yes, if you are overweight, a huge benefit of getting healthy is that you will loose weight. naturally and effortlessly. (Or gain it if you are underweight). Chasing healthy is the best way to reach your naturally healthy weight. What that looks like is very different from person to person.
But the weight control is just one of many benefits.
I began chasing healthy over 8 years ago and I’ve never looked back. I feel amazing and I think I look better now in my 50’s than I ever did in my 30’s. You can read about how I did it and the many benefits here.
If I can do it so can you!
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