Lets face it, we all want to be starting good habits, stopping bad habits and sticking to it.
We all want to replace bad lifestyle choices with healthy ones. Who wouldn’t? It’s a no brainer.
Regardless of our age we still want to be enjoying our lives to the full, looking mighty fine and feeling it.
So what’s stopping you?
Why aren’t we all springing around like..
fit, healthy 🐼??? What…
Why can’t we just do it?
Let’s have a look.
This isn’t an all singing all dancing, everything you ever needed to know guide about habit making and breaking.
It’s a focused insight into some major factor’s that are stopping you being successful.
As always, knowledge is power, awareness is key. Both can help us get the results we deserve.
3 Major Reasons we fail at starting good habits and stopping bad habits:
- Never getting started
- Yes to the end goal but nah to the path
- You keep falling off the wagon
- Never Getting Started
To start a healthy habit or stop an unhealthy one we decide on a start date. It’s always in the future!
- Yes I will start being good tomorrow.
- I will stop smoking next week when I have less stress.
- It will be easier for me to concentrate on getting fit and healthy next month when I will be less busy at work or when my son has started at scouts or whatever…
excuses reasons are endless.
We should really congratulate ourselves on our creativity.
You put things off until you
fool yourself perceive the time to be ripe, everything will be perfect, the moons will all align and then, you think, I can finally start being good.
But, In truth this never actually happens. Life ticks on and something else turns up that stuffs up your plans for that perfect moment to start.
It’s all a very clever ploy that our mind tells us in order to stay in its comfort zone and avoid the change we are trying to make.
We should give ourselves an award for best at self sabotaging our own goals.
You have comforted yourself in the knowledge that you will start this much needed project in your life. You have told yourself that it is going to happen. Just not right now. So you feel good about yourself knowing that you will solve this issue soon.
In truth though it never happens, it just keeps being delayed and put forward and postponed. Before you know it, 20 years have passed and you are still smoking, still overweight, still not fit, still eating trash, still drinking too much alcohol…
2. Yes to the end goal but nah to the path
The body, your mind, the brain…whichever is the part of you that makes the important decisions re your wellness. Its pretty lazy, and prefers what it knows.
It’s comfortable in its routine and does not relish the thought of change. It doesn’t fancy the discomfort needed for an upgraded lifestyle.
In actuality, that part of us doesn’t really want to the make the change.
It wants the benefits, the end goal, the dream but it doesn’t want to put in the work it takes to get there.
Its comfortable where it is thank you very much and is employing avoidance tactics. Hence the very clever I will start tomorrow tactic.
It also uses another self sabotaging tactic which appears when we have actually managed to start or stop a habit.
I will start again tomorrow.
Which leads us to …
3. You Keep Falling Off the Wagon
Let’s say you finally found a today and did make a start on that goal you really want, that benefit you really desire. But now you keep cheating, falling off the wagon and saying it’s ok I will start again tomorrow.
- I can cheat now and start again tomorrow.
- Im so stressed I can have a ciggy now and start stopping again tomorrow.
- I will skip my workout today and get back in to the flow tomorrow.
- I will start up my healthy eating plan again tomorrow.
In a way this is ok. Stopping and starting new habits is hard. Upgrading your lifestyle is difficult. It is a journey and as the old cliche goes it’s the journey that matters. You will learn and improve along the way. Never give up trying, every millimetre closer is a step in the right direction.
I think it’s easy to fall into a trap where you aren’t really trying. Your just very conveniently using the tomorrow excuse again and again and it’s not doing you any favours.
If you cheat too much, if there are too many tomorrows, you won’t be reaching your goals. You won’t be getting anywhere. You’ll be in the worst possible place. Half trying, half putting in the work, but going nowhere fast and not reaping the benefits.
The Tomorrow Cycle
This cycle will continue until you see it clearly for what it is and put a stop to it.
You are self sabotaging your own goals, your own health, your own future, your own happiness, your own life…
Today, now ,this second…
No matter how small the step towards your goal it has to be today. That may just be as small as starting to make a plan but do something!
If you have to or want to loose weight, stop smoking, quit junk food, get fit, eat healthy etc etc decide that it will happen today or this minute, this second, just now.
- Just now, right at this moment, I will not light that cigarette.
- Tonight just for tonight I won’t drink that glass of wine.
- Right now I won’t eat that chocolate bar
- Today I will not eat junk food
- Today , just for today I will not smoke
- Today I will take one small step towards my fitness goals by doing a 10 minute walk.
The point is to decide to do it now, in this moment, today.
Just be good today.
Tomorrow can be decided tomorrow.
After all tomorrow will eventually be today and today we are going to be bad ass and achieve our goals right!!!
There is no such thing as the perfect time to start or stop habits. Your life will never stop giving you reasons, obstacles and excuses.
This will never end!
You have to make your goals fit into your lifestyle or make changes to your current lifestyle to fit your goals. Here’s some quick tips.
Practical tips: starting good habits, stopping bad habits
- Work from the inside out
- Step by step
- Be realistic
- Use short time slots
- Track your progress
- Use a toolbox of healthy replacements
- Get accountability
- Make a plan
- Make it fun
And last but definitely not least…
Persistence not Perfection
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